Thursday, September 18, 2008
Friday, September 5, 2008
Delicate relationship,handle with care!!!
Recently I attended a funeral. Even before the cinders could cool, I noticed a ‘no love lost’ behaivour of the daughter-in-law. Having lived together for three decades why is that their inter-personal and intra-personal relationship failed? This set me thinking…………
An adorable mother, a lovable sister, a doting grandmother fails miserably when it comes to the ‘in-law’ relationship. Why can’t she be an adorable mother-in-law? Or for that matter a lovable daughter-in-law?
Curiosity got the better of me. I began investigating. I recorded a comment that this relationship was strained even at the highest level of office i.e. the Prime Minister. The relationship is at its worst when it comes to the lower income group. It has deteriorated at the middle order.
My inquisitiveness took me through the winding roads of varied thoughts. The younger women were full of venom about their possessive mothers-in-law. The mother-in-law always felt that she had given her prized possession to a women who was not worthy of it. Further there is a lot of discrimination between the daughters-in-law. No wonder books like ‘Dollar Bahu’ are a best seller. The older generations had tales to say about their daughters-in-law. That the younger generation was a self-centered and a selfish lot. They were all sugar when they needed the mothers’-in-law help and were a ‘bitter guard’ otherwise.
Is there no respite from this problem? Then I noticed a family where both the women were sharing a cordial and a healthy relationship. The wise mother-in-law enlightened me that the day the new bride entered the house she had a heart to heart talk with her about this relationship. She also advised her that the adorable son should not be sand-witched between the two women who loved him the most. In case of any misunderstanding it should be sorted out between them. They should not be running to the men. That they can settle their dispute amicably if one is able to see the point of view of the other. Today they live in the same building but in two different apartments. Each has her own independence in the course of the day and at the same time they are shopping, cooking, and celebrating festivals together.
This should be an eye-opener. Both should go halfway to meet the other. When women can reach the space, can’t they really uphold a small but a really important relationship? I think women like us with firm determination can make a little effort to make this relationship cherishable. If only I have made you thinking positively I think I was successful in driving the point. Let us make up our mind to put in a little effort to make this world a happier place to live in and if possible bring down heaven onto the earth.
Published in the ‘Little Women ‘the annual journal of the WDC, ST. Mary’s
An adorable mother, a lovable sister, a doting grandmother fails miserably when it comes to the ‘in-law’ relationship. Why can’t she be an adorable mother-in-law? Or for that matter a lovable daughter-in-law?
Curiosity got the better of me. I began investigating. I recorded a comment that this relationship was strained even at the highest level of office i.e. the Prime Minister. The relationship is at its worst when it comes to the lower income group. It has deteriorated at the middle order.
My inquisitiveness took me through the winding roads of varied thoughts. The younger women were full of venom about their possessive mothers-in-law. The mother-in-law always felt that she had given her prized possession to a women who was not worthy of it. Further there is a lot of discrimination between the daughters-in-law. No wonder books like ‘Dollar Bahu’ are a best seller. The older generations had tales to say about their daughters-in-law. That the younger generation was a self-centered and a selfish lot. They were all sugar when they needed the mothers’-in-law help and were a ‘bitter guard’ otherwise.
Is there no respite from this problem? Then I noticed a family where both the women were sharing a cordial and a healthy relationship. The wise mother-in-law enlightened me that the day the new bride entered the house she had a heart to heart talk with her about this relationship. She also advised her that the adorable son should not be sand-witched between the two women who loved him the most. In case of any misunderstanding it should be sorted out between them. They should not be running to the men. That they can settle their dispute amicably if one is able to see the point of view of the other. Today they live in the same building but in two different apartments. Each has her own independence in the course of the day and at the same time they are shopping, cooking, and celebrating festivals together.
This should be an eye-opener. Both should go halfway to meet the other. When women can reach the space, can’t they really uphold a small but a really important relationship? I think women like us with firm determination can make a little effort to make this relationship cherishable. If only I have made you thinking positively I think I was successful in driving the point. Let us make up our mind to put in a little effort to make this world a happier place to live in and if possible bring down heaven onto the earth.
Published in the ‘Little Women ‘the annual journal of the WDC, ST. Mary’s
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